Mar 10, 2009
What I wish I'd known not to stress about during pregnancy
"Don't stress if you can't get everything done that you had planned each day. The baby won't notice if the housework isn't done."
"It's okay to tell co-workers that you're not interested in their advice. Every pregnancy is different."
"Remember, every problem has a solution, and confiding in someone who is close to you or who you think can offer help or support is a step forward. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner or midwife."
"Don't stress about how you look. You are performing a miracle — growing a person inside of you — and that is a fantastic accomplishment."
"If you trust your OB, let her do her job and follow her recommendations; if you don't, find a new doctor whom you do trust. You should never be afraid to call your provider with big and small problems."
"Don't stress about tough times with your partner. A baby tests any couple's relationship."
"Don't stress about things like food or weight. Just be sensible. There's no need to give yourself an anxiety attack over the pint of Ben & Jerry's you just finished. Take it as your special reward for everything you've accomplished so far in your pregnancy, and move on."
"If you're doing everything in your power to make healthy choices, don't worry so much. Women have been having babies since well before we knew what to do and what not to do."
"Mothers-in-law don't know everything!"
"Don't stress too much about things in the environment you think might harm your baby, like standing too close to the microwave or pumping gas. Remember, the vast majority of babies are born healthy."
"Don't worry about labor. It is what it is. Just educate yourself on your options, and be ready to make informed decisions. Beyond that, just take a deep breath and go for it. It's not as bad as you think it'll be."
"Don't stress about how the baby is fending in the womb. It's quite the roll cage, and your baby is comfortable in there."
"Every little twinge doesn't mean something is wrong."
"Don't worry when your baby doesn't move. Your baby is just like you, and some days he just wants to sleep!"
"No matter what decisions you make, someone will always disagree. Try not to let the negative comments upset you, and if you're really worried about something, talk with your doctor or a nonjudgmental friend."
"It's okay if you don't have everything ready for baby. Newborns don't need a whole lot in the beginning."
"When I accepted heartburn, back pain, lack of sleep, and moodiness as a normal part of pregnancy, they did not seem to bother me as much anymore."
"If you're worried about being a good mom, you have nothing to worry about. My husband keeps telling me that bad mothers don't worry about whether or not they will be good moms."
"I had never really been around children, and I made mistakes, but as long as you love your baby, you can't harm it with small mistakes. You'll soon get comfortable with the routine."
"Don't stress too much over all the "rules" pregnant women now have. A shower warmer than lukewarm won't lead to disaster. If you accidentally eat soft cheese, there's no use worrying after the fact. Our mothers had fewer restrictions than we do, and we turned out fine."